May 29, 2010

The Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Week


I debated sharing what happened to me a week ago. Now that things have gotten worse, I feel like I can't keep it a secret any longer. Why wouldn't I share the ups and downs of my life with the most supportive and nonjudgmental group of all? You, my blogging friends, are the best.

I had a miscarriage last Friday. It came as a huge surprise since I didn't know I was pregnant. Want to know what was even more shocking? I was on the pill. Google says the pill is 92-99.7% effective as birth control. Yes, I knew this. However, I thought I would fall into the percentage it actually worked for. It was a traumatic experience to say the least, but I'm moving past it as best I can. I see my doctor on Wednesday for a follow up. As long as everything's ok, I will be moving forward with a more permanent birth control solution. The Hero and I are extremely blessed to have Little Man and Little Bit, but are in total agreement that we don't want any more children.

During the first few days, I suffered through severe cramps and lower back pain. I managed to only miss one day of work just to be laid off on Friday. Yes, you read that right. I was let go from my job on Friday along with some other coworkers. I can't and won't get into the details here. Just know that the reasons for my sudden removal from the office were bogus and without merit. I expected better treatment from my superiors. If they want personal opinions and unfair treatment to get in the way of a great staff, so be it.

I've been wallowing all weekend. I'm allowing myself to feel sad until tomorrow night. Tuesday will be the start of a new chapter in my life. This chapter will be better and brighter than ever before.

54 comments:

Marcie said...

First, I am so sorry. That is so much to go through at once. Second, hang in there. I know it may be hard to see right now, but everything happens for a reason.

Best,
Marcie

Angie said...

That is a truly horrible week. Miscarriages are very difficult to go through, emotionally and physically. And to be laid off on top of it. Geez.

((hugs))

LUCKY said...

Oh gosh! I am so sorry!

(((hugs)))

Simone said...

Oh honey, I am really sorry to read this....truly sorry.

I haven't been through eiether experience so I won't pretend that I know what you are feeling, but I know without doubt this must be a tough time for you.

You seem like a very strong person and am sure that you will get through this....but I hope you have a good support network around you and that you have good friends (I am sure you do because great girls always have great friends).

Don't put too much pressure on yourself to get over it quickly....

I am sure that things will get better and brighter....I hope it will be soon.

Thank you for sharing and please know I am thinking of you right now xoxo

PeaceLoveApplesauce said...

You are not alone.. Publicly, we'll take on the world by Tuesday. But come Tuesday evening, I'm sure I'll become depressed again and text you in my misery!
Hang in there.. At least you still have friends!

PS. I'm taking some of your words from this & inputting them into my letter. I'll send you a preview before it's sent.
Love ya beeoch!

Tara said...

oh my gosh. that's got to be one of the worst weeks ever. i am so so sorry that you're having to go through this! lots of love from bloggy land! xo.

Kelly @ Dare to be Domestic said...

Girl I am so sorry. I wish I had more than just those words to tell you. I've never been through your first situation but it makes my heart ache even if it was a total surprise to you. I am happy that you and your hubby are on the same page, you have a beautiful family and unit together and you are there for each other that is what matters.

I have been on the chopping block before when it came to my job and it was a very, very sketchy situation so I feel for you 100%. You are better than they will ever know and you deserve all the good things life and jobs have to offer you.

Cheers to your new beginning and your fresh start. Life is what you make it and I have no doubt Hotpants that you will start a revolution!

OXOXOX *huge hugs*

Adie said...

I am so sorry for the things that have happened this week. I wish you all the best

Tracie said...

What a terrible combination of things to go through. I'm very sorry for you. Sending you positive thoughts and virtual hugs.

Jen said...

Wow!! You really did have a terrible no good very bad week!! (Love the book BTW!) So sorry to read about your loss! Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers!!

Jen

Michelle Hoad said...

I will now cease to complain about my almost scorpion sting crappy couple of days garbage. I am so sorry you are going through so much right now. They say when it rains, it pours and honey, it's a freaking deluge for you right now. Hang in there.

Kristina P. said...

I am sorry, my friend. Thinking of you.

MiMi said...

Oh, friend!! This makes me sad for you...so sad.
But to every season there is a purpose and a reason under heaven.
Or something like that...? I'm so bad at those quotes.
Anyway, praying for you, for healing and for a better opportunity to open up with a new career! You don't need to be around people who will let you go because of personal opinions, etc.

Ashley said...

How sucky! I'm thinking of you!

Beck said...

So sorry for your horrible week. Having to deal with two life altering situations back to back like that is surely emotionally exhausting! I will be thinking of you, and hoping that you got all the rest and happiness you deserve this weekend. (((HUGS)))

ham1299 said...

Wow, what a week! (((Hugs))) I'm so sorry for everything.

North West London Girl said...

I'm genuinely sorry to hear your sad news, albeit you don't want anymore, it must be a horrible experience to go through, and then topped of by being laid off, that really is a week that has put you to the test...you seem to be coping really well, bless you and sending love from the English countryside xxx

Eclipsed said...

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how emotionally draining both of those events have been for you. Hugs to you and yours.

Ashley said...

Oh my gosh, I am so sorry.

*hugs*

Mighty M said...

That is quite the week - I am so sorry for your pain right now. I love that poster and think we should all have a little NPH hanging around our life. I will send you lots of positive thoughts as you begin your wonderful new journey on Tuesday!

Liz Butler said...

I am so sorry about all the stuff going on. When I read you had a miscarriage, my heart suddenly dropped. I suffered a miscarriage some years ago and it broke our hearts.

And regarding the job situation, I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. And although it might be hard to understand (or accept) everything right now, surely there is something bigger and better waiting for you.

Sending hugs your way during this difficult time!

Jamee said...

I am so sorry for your loss! ((Hugs))

Lisa - Fine Sweet Life said...

Ugghhh....Hard times make you question, "What the hell is going on?...". You have a great man right there to get through it all with, and in the meantime....We are here to listen if you want to scream!

Ashley said...

I am so sorry. That is so much to go through in such a short amount of time. :( Hugs.

Jewels Diva® said...

Wow, that sucks and I'm sorry. I hope you can get past it and have a better, brighter future. Good luck!

Sharlene T. said...

I'm so sorry. There's nothing to say that will change anything but know that we're here for you and remember that laughter shared is doubled and sorrow shared is halved...a new door has opened...

Erin said...

Awwww friend. I am sorry.

I am sure that each experience is different, but I know what you are going through. I have had two miscarriages in six months. And it's...terrible.

And the job....well, I am really, really sorry. Two terrible things in one week?

No one deserves that.

I am praying for your healing both spiritually and physically.

Erin

Dysfunctional Mom said...

That sounds like one hell of a week. I'm sorry, for all of it! And I hope things only go up from here.
xo

Ali said...

So sorry to hear about your week. My thoughts are with you.

The Random Blogette said...

I am so sorry tat you had to go through all of that last week. Good luckon your new start! You will be great!

Sherrie said...

Awww, hugs my friend! I pray you will find peace to get past this. Remember to stay strong for the two beautiful bundles of joy that you DO have! As some have mentioned, we may not always understand it, but everything happens for a reason. Hang in there!

Shorty said...

I'm so sorry for what you've been through and what you're still recovering from, my dear. How traumatic. I'm wishing you all the best and look forward to hearing all about the wonderful things you encounter in this new phase of life. Hang in there. You're a tough gal, but feel free to utilize your readers for therapy! I've always found writing to be such a healing thing to do.

Natalie said...

Just talked to Terri & had to leave you a comment. I'm sure I'll send a few texts in a minute to cover my bases.
Last week sucked..I hate that you had to go through so much hell. It's even shittier you lost your job without so much as a warning. Why do companies think that's the best way? You've worked there for how many years? You def. deserved better & more respect than what they gave you.

Let's get together & have some drinks. I can wallow with the best of 'em.

Nikosmommy said...

What a crap-sandwich of a week!! Sorry to hear it's been such a tough time! Thanks for sharing your week with us because so many of us have been there before too!!!
Hope you're feeling better ASAP and that this change in your "career path" will take you to a new and BETTER job!! Hang in there Mama!!!

closet365 said...

Thinking of you lady. You are so awesome and amazing, I know you will bounce back from this.

And who knows, maybe you'll find a new and better calling than the old job. Fingers crossed for you!

Cathy said...

Whoa. That's a whole lot of stink. So sorry about everything, but of course we're all here for you! Things will be better and you will be AWESOME instead!

Olivia Carter said...

I am so sorry. What an awful week. Seriously, sister, wallow for a bit. I haven't had the exact same experience but I have had the bottom of the bucket fall out & that helps me. Just give yourself time to sit in dirty PJs with icecream and rewatch Twilight & New Moon. In a row. Feel better.

And I love that quote on the bottom. Thanks for the reminder.

Karen said...

I'm a bit behind in my blog reading, so I just found this post.

I'm SO sorry, my friend! I'm thinking of you and hope you're doing all right. Well, considering. And, seriously? I applaud you for your good attitude. Tomorrow is another day.

Salt said...

Oh my goodness I'm so sorry about EVERYTHING that is going on right now. And I'm sorry that I didn't read this sooner. I wish you lived down the street so that I could come hug you.

I have always been a really firm believer that everything happens for a reason, so I'm hoping the layoff is just a way of telling you that a bigger, better door is about to open for you. I have a feeling that it will. :)

You know that we are all here for you no matter what!

Hannah @ The New Black said...

Oh M, I am so sorry that you've had such a rough time lately. You are one tough cookie though and I am certain that you'll come out just fine. But really, if you need a few more days...take them. Hugs!

Kristen said...

new reader here,

so sorry to hear about your horrible week.

Shelley said...

I'm so sorry :-(

Dezzy Lou Where Are You said...

What a shit tastic week, Im so sorry! You have proven to be so strong and resilient just in the little I know of you- you will get to the other side of this and be stronger for it. In the meantime, drink heavily.

Megan said...

Oh my word. I'm so, so, so sorry. What a horrible week. I'm sending lots of good thoughts your way and hoping that this week is much, much better.

thatdesigngal said...

I so sorry to about your losses. That is certainly a lot in a week. I can only related to being laid off- I was laid off last Feb ('09) and have yet to find work....I can only imagine.

I will keep you in my prayers. Hang in there.

~Mary

Simply-Mel said...

oh geez Hotpants. That is flipping awful. I, too, suffered a miscarriage betw my 1st and 2nd and I didnt know I was pregnant...and soldiered on...HECTIC.

The job? wtf? You are awesome, even when you are sad. xxx

Much More Than Mommy said...

My heart just hit my toes. I am so sorry, I'm just shaking my head in disbelief. You are in my prayers, and I look forward to hearing more of your newest chapters. <3

April said...

Oh girly ... sending you love from Oregon!! {{hugs}}

Baby Sweetness said...

I'm so sorry.

Anonymous said...

Oh my god... I am so sorry. I guess there isn't much else I can say but I hope that next week is the best week ever... and that you're feeling healthy and OK with everything. Here for you if you need a friend. xoxo

V [summer]

Nancy said...

Hope you're having a much better week. xo

Coma Girl said...

Ack! So sorry to hear about both losses. I hope this week is much better.

And love the NPH pic - he (and Barney) can always make me smile.

A Real Housewife said...

i am such a prick for missing this. so sorry. =( you are awesome, and you will pull through better and brighter. i hope tuesday brought about some awesome changes and new beginnings!

Katie said...

I don't know how I managed to miss this. :( I'm so sorry. You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers.